Before you marry make sure the Lord has guided you into that decision. Is it only an emotional choice or one out of desperation? Is it one that brings peace to both of your hearts because you know that the relationship is of the Lord? This is all the difference between having a happy marriage and making the worst mistake of your life. Look for red flags! Is the person truly and genuinely committed to Jesus Christ? Is the man working a job? Is the person without addictions? Is there harmony between the two of you? Is there a mutual commitment toward moral and spiritual purity? Is there the ability to discuss all subjects without hostility? Is the relationship not based on fear, control or disrespect? Is this a person you would consider spending the rest of your life with? Another good question is to ask is if the individual would be a good husband and father or wife and mother. Bathe the matter in prayer!