Four wrong ways to deal with anger:
1. Repress. Hold it in, ignore, deny, push it under, stuff it.
a. Internally. Seethe with bitterness, jealousy, etc.
b. Externally. The “silent treatment” (Eph. 4:26).
2. Express. “Dump it;” “get it off your chest.”
a. Direct expression. Explode. Blow up (Gal. 5:20; Prov. 12:16; Prov. 14:29; Prov. 29:11; Prov. 29:22; Eccl. 7:9).
b. Indirect expression. “I’ll get even” (Lev. 19:18; Rom. 12:19).
c. Substitutionary expression. “Ventilation.”
3. Digress. Turn aside. Get your mind off of it.
4. Profess to be powerless. Make excuses. Disclaim responsibility.
James Fowler