Some specific suggestions for how a Christian man can put these principles into action in a dating relationship: 1. Commit to take the lead in the godliness of your relationship. Read the Bible’s passages about how men and women and all Christians should treat one another. Especially take the lead in establishing boundaries that will keep you from sexual sin. Assume that this woman is going to be your wife or the wife of some other Christian brother (who might be currently dating your future wife). Treat her as the precious sister in Christ that she is. 2. Decide in advance whether or not you are willing to love a woman in the self-sacrificing, nurturing way the Bible describes. Until you are ready to faithfully hold a woman’s heart in your hand, do not enter into a dating relationship. 3. Realizing that God wants you to learn to put her interest ahead of your own, ask her the kinds of things she likes to do and be eager to spend time doing them. 4. Be willing to talk about the relationship. Initiate honest dialogue about how you feel. Do not resent her desire to have the relationship defined, but protect her heart by making your level of commitment clear and thereby making clear the appropriate kind of intimacy to go along with that commitment. 5. Pay attention to her heart. Ask her about her burdens and cares. Seek ways to minister to her and to make her cares your own. Instead of being critical of her, speak words of encouragement and support. 6. Do not be shy in ministering the Word of God to her. Do not preach, but exhort her and call to mind God’s promises and God’s love for her in Jesus Christ. Make it a primary goal that she will be spiritually stronger by having been in a relationship with you. 7. If something about her bothers you, think about how you can encourage her in that area. Realize that none of us is without flaws. Pray for her weakness and try to strengthen her in that area. If your concerns are enough to deter you from wanting to marry her, let her know in a forthright manner while being as considerate as possible (Richard and Sharon Phillips).

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CATEGORY	CUISINE	TAG	YIELD
Meats, Grains	Chinese	Chinese, Main dish	2	Servings

INGREDIENTS

4		Dried black mushrooms
1	c	Roast pork
1/2	c	Celery
1	c	Chinese cabbage
1/2	c	Bamboo shoots
1/2	c	Bean sprouts
6		Snow peas
2		Slices fresh ginger root
1		Garlic clove
2	tb	Oil
1	tb	Sherry
1/2	c	Stock (chicken)

INSTRUCTIONS

Soak dried mushrooms. Slice roast pork, celery, cabbage and bamboo shoots.
Blanch bean sprouts. Stem snow peas. Shred ginger root and crush garlic.
Heat oil. Add ginger root and garlic; stir fry to brown lightly. Add pork
and stir fry a few times. Then add in sherry to blend. Add all vegetables
except snow peas and stir fry 1 minute more. Add stock and heat quickly.
Then cook,covered, 3 minutes over medium heat. Stir in snow peas. Combine
mixture with tossed noodles (*See below) Variations: Substitute cooked
beef,ham, chicken, duck, crabmeat, lobster or shrimp. You can also add
shredded green onion to the garlic/ginger mixture. I use Shaoxing wine
instead of sherry, which is more authentic. *To cook noodles, prepare
boiling water with a little salt. Add noodles and cook until barely done.
Drain and rinse with cold water to stop cooking. Separate noodles with a
fork, then toss them with a little sesame oil or peanut oil and set aside
until they are ready to go into your stir-fry for the final heat. You will
want about a pound of noodles for the above recipe. This recipe is simply a
guideline for a dish that can be varied in a thousand ways!
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