I think the common belief that in order to serve someone in love means that we need to give up our concern for ourselves is totally false. Rather I believe we honor people the most when we can pursue our happiness in serving them. For example, when I visit people in the hospital they either say, “Thank you” or “You didn’t have to come, Pastor.” What’s the most loving response on my part? “It’s my duty?” 'Just doing my job?” Of course not! What if I say, “I’ve been looking forward to being with you all day, and right now there is no other place I’d rather be.” Would the person respond, “There you go again, only thinking about yourself!” No, they would take my pursuing of joy in them as the highest form of love!