Some specific suggestions for how a Christian man can put these principles into action in a dating relationship: 1. Commit to take the lead in the godliness of your relationship. Read the Bible’s passages about how men and women and all Christians should treat one another. Especially take the lead in establishing boundaries that will keep you from sexual sin. Assume that this woman is going to be your wife or the wife of some other Christian brother (who might be currently dating your future wife). Treat her as the precious sister in Christ that she is. 2. Decide in advance whether or not you are willing to love a woman in the self-sacrificing, nurturing way the Bible describes. Until you are ready to faithfully hold a woman’s heart in your hand, do not enter into a dating relationship. 3. Realizing that God wants you to learn to put her interest ahead of your own, ask her the kinds of things she likes to do and be eager to spend time doing them. 4. Be willing to talk about the relationship. Initiate honest dialogue about how you feel. Do not resent her desire to have the relationship defined, but protect her heart by making your level of commitment clear and thereby making clear the appropriate kind of intimacy to go along with that commitment. 5. Pay attention to her heart. Ask her about her burdens and cares. Seek ways to minister to her and to make her cares your own. Instead of being critical of her, speak words of encouragement and support. 6. Do not be shy in ministering the Word of God to her. Do not preach, but exhort her and call to mind God’s promises and God’s love for her in Jesus Christ. Make it a primary goal that she will be spiritually stronger by having been in a relationship with you. 7. If something about her bothers you, think about how you can encourage her in that area. Realize that none of us is without flaws. Pray for her weakness and try to strengthen her in that area. If your concerns are enough to deter you from wanting to marry her, let her know in a forthright manner while being as considerate as possible (Richard and Sharon Phillips).

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CATEGORY	CUISINE	TAG	YIELD
		Sauces, Southwester	1	Servings

INGREDIENTS

1	sm	Onion; chopped
1		Clove garlic; minced
3	c	Peeled chopped tomatoes
1		Jalapeno pepper; minced
1		Lime
1/4	c	Cilantro or parsley; chopped
1/2	ts	Salt

INSTRUCTIONS

In a small bowl, combine onion and garlic. Pour enough boiling water over
to cover. Let stand 2 minutes and drain. Add tomatoes, pepper, 1 tablespoon
lime juice and cilantro or parsley.
Posted to MC-Recipe Digest V1 #200
Date: Mon, 12 Aug 1996 23:13:49 -0400
From: ADAMSFMLE@aol.com
NOTES : Makes about 4 cups. Fresh salsa does not keep well, no more than
one
day in the refrigerator. This is a good quantity for a large party
- you may
want to cut it in half for a smaller gathering.

A Message from our Provider:

“To ignore God is the height of selfishness”

Is there a voice in weeping? Does weeping speak? In what language doth it utter its meaning? Why, in that universal tongue which is known and understood in all the earth, and even in heaven above. When a man weeps, whether he be a Jew or Gentile, Barbarian, Scythian, bond or free, it has the same meaning in it. Weeping is the eloquence of sorrow. It is an unstammering orator, needing no interpreter, but understood of all. Is it not sweet to believe that our tears are understood even when words fail? Let us learn to think of tears as liquid prayers, and of weeping as a constant dropping of importunate intercession which will wear its way right surely into the very heart of mercy, despite the stony difficulties which obstruct the way. My God, I will 'weep' when I cannot plead, for thou hearest the voice of my weeping.

C.H. Spurgeon