When ye murmur and repine under cross and afflictive dispensations, this is a presuming to instruct God how to deal with you, and to reprove Him as if He were in the wrong. Yea, there is a kind of implicit blasphemy in it, as if you had more wisdom and justice to dispose of your lot, and to carve out your own portion in the world. This is upon the matter the language of such a disposition, Had I been on God’s counsel, I had ordered this matter better; things had not been with me as now they are. O presume not to correct the infinite wisdom of God, seeing He has decreed all things most wisely and judiciously.
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#1 · July 21, 2005, 7:33 am

Posted by: bigguyhereagain <bigguyhereagain@...>

"Devil's Beastitudes"
 

Blessed are those who are too tired, busy or disorganized to meet with fellow Christians on Sundays each week.
Their hearts are not in it.
 
Blessed are those who enjoy noticing the mannerisms of clergy and choir.
Their hearts are not in it.
 
Blessed are those Christians who wait to be asked and expect to be thanked.
I can use them.
 
Blessed are the touchy.
With a bit of luck they may even stop going to church.
They are my missionaries.
 
Blessed are those who claim to love God at the same time as hating other people.
They are mine forever.
 
Blessed are the trouble makers.
They shall be called my children.
 
Blessed are those who have no time to pray.
They are easy prey for me.
 
Blessed are you when you read this and think it is about other people and not about yourself.
I've got you.
 
 
"TEN WAYS TO PREVENT KIDS FIGHTING"  
 
 
Fighting among siblings is as natural as the changing of the
seasons. And contrary to what many parents believe, sibling
rivalry is a sign of mental health in a family. While there may
be times when it's difficult to deal with, there are some simple
things you can do to limit fighting and make it tolerable:
 
1. Ignore Their Fighting
Fighting is often a way for kids to get you to notice them.
If you ignore their fighting (unless weapons are involved),
there will be less incentive for them to do it.
 
2. Treat Your Kids the Same When it Comes to Fighting
 
If you get into who started things, you may be training your
kids to be victims and bullies. Put them in the same boat and
don't take sides.
 
3. Give Your Kids Positive Reinforcement when they're
Cooperating.
 
Let them know they're doing a wonderful job when they get
along. This one's easy to forget, but vitally important. Give
them attention when they're behaving the way you want.
Continually telling them to stop may actually be creating more
fighting!
 
4. Limit Your Own Fighting and Arguing.
 
Having your kids see occasional arguing and "making up"
from you is fine, but your kids will learn how to be peaceful
from you. Don't expect them to do it well if you don't show
them how.
 
5. Create an Environment of Cooperation.
 
Do projects together as a family that involve cooperation.
Talk about how important it is for the family to cooperate.
Avoid games or activities that promote fighting or excessive
competition in your kids.
 
6. Train Your Kids in Peacemaking when They're Away from
Conflict.
 
Talk to your kids about fighting at a time when they're relaxed
and open. Ask them about what other options they might have
taken rather than to hit their sister. Help them to brainstorm
better solutions.
 
7. Try to Avoid Punishing your Kids
 
Punishing kids usually just creates angry kids who are more
likely to fight. While some punishment may be inevitable,
do your best to give consequences instead. Punishment may
bring short term solutions, but will also bring long term
problems.
 
8. Control How You React to their Fighting.
 
When you must intervene, make sure you stay calm. If you're
angry and shaming, you actually make it more likely that
fighting will occur again.
 
9. Limit the Number of Fighting Opportunities You Give
your Kids.
 
Think about what has the potential to start fights. Don't buy a
red ball and a blue ball, this may easily result in a fight by
your kids. Buy two red balls--no fight. Be familiar with the
times in which fighting occurs the most--when they're hungry
or tired. Take precautions, like having dinner ready before the
"bewitching hour" occurs.
 
10. Love Your Kids for All They're Worth
 
Every day tell them you love them, and more importantly--
show them. Kids who feel emotionally connected to their
parents are the least likely to fight. This won't eliminate it,
but the alternative isn't pretty at all.
Mark Brandenburg
 
 
Have a Blessed Day
Dave and Barbara
 
 
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