How To Get Along With People
Posted by: bigguyhereagain <bigguyhereagain@...>
Cultivate a low, persuasive voice. How you say it counts more than
what you say.
2. Make promises sparingly, and keep them faithfully, no matter
what it costs.
3. Never let an opportunity pass to say a kind and encouraging word
to or about somebody. Praise good work, regardless of who did it.
If criticism is needed, criticize helpfully, never spitefully.
4. Be interested in others, their pursuits, their work, their homes
and families. Make merry with those who rejoice; with those who
weep, mourn. Let everyone you meet, however humble, feel that you
regard him as a person of importance.
5. Be cheerful. Don't burden or depress those around you by
dwelling on your minor aches and pains and small disappointments.
Remember, everyone is carrying some kind of a load.
6. Keep an open mind. Discuss but don't argue. It is a mark of a
superior mind to be able to disagree without being disagreeable.
7. Let your virtues speak for themselves. Refuse to talk of
another's vices. Discourage gossip. It is a waste of valuable time
and can be extremely destructive.
8. Be careful of another's feelings. Wit and humor at the other
person's expense are rarely worth it and may hurt when least
expected.
9. Pay no attention to ill-natured remarks about you. Remember, the
person who carried the message may not be the most accurate
reporter in the world. Simply live so that nobody will believe
them. Disordered nerves and bad digestion are a common cause of
backbiting.
10. Don't be too anxious about the credit due you. Do your best,
and be patient. Forget about yourself, and let others "remember."
Success is much sweeter that way.
Tragic things in my life happened and I turned on God. I was
angry that He would let these things happen to my family and me.
Until about a year ago when I redevoted my life to God, I never
understood why those things happened. My Nanna and Poppa had
devoted their lives to God, a faith I had never seen waiver even
once during a time of crisis. I was in awe of them.
My Poppa was being transported to church one Sunday, about seven
years ago in a wheelchair lift bus. The driver failed to comply
with safety standards by making sure my Poppa was securely
belted in, and as a result, when he ended up in an accident, my
Poppa was thrown from the back of the bus into the front dash.
I was beyond livid when I heard the news. I called my Nanna and
demanded to know what the driver's name was, begging her to press
charges, and sue the company so she and my Poppa wouldn't have
to struggle anymore.
She insisted she wasn't going to do anything about it; she was
too busy tending to my Poppa. So I went behind her back and
called the company screaming like a banshee at the owner for
allowing such a person to work for him.
A couple of years later, I was sitting in the bar drinking my
problems away till the next day, when I heard a guy I knew from
karaoke describing this accident he'd once gotten into at work
where an "old man" was hurt, and the family called his office to
scream at his boss.
I walked over to his table, asked him if he worked at the same
company my Poppa used to take; he nodded. I asked him if he
remembered the guy's name, he said only the last name, and
proceeded to tell me what it was.
I plowed him with my fist as hard as I could and left.
I never spoke of the issue again until about a month ago with my
Nanna. We were discussing God's wrath and how I'd just
recently realized His may not be immediate, but in the end it is
far worse than mine will ever be.
She asked me if I remembered her response to Poppa's accident.
I hung my head in shame and nodded.
She told me that her faith in God's wrath is what stopped her
from doing something. I was stunned like she had just hit me.
"He will be judged," she said, "and I don't want to be a part of
it when he does."
The big revelation.
Allow God to judge, and you will have nothing to repent for.
We make enough mistakes of our own, why add someone else's to
the pile?
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