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Outward appearance
#1 · October 1, 2001, 11:45 am
Posted by: empalo <empalo@...>
My oldest daughter has always been very conservative, but my second one
pushes the limits at times. One time she dyed her hair a bluish black.
Expecting me to go crazy over it. But I didn't. I just told her it matched
her eyes and that I had full faith that when she is 35 she will not be doing
such things. It dissapointed her that it mattered not to me.
It mattered to me in one way. My pride. I was ashamed to think that I had
raised a child that would look so, odd and did it speak of some failings within
our family. Did I look less 'Christian" when we walked side by side in the store.
What were people thinking of me ?
Then I thought about my attitude and realized my daughter pretty well had had
my real concerns understood. I wasn't so worried about people judging her, as
I was about people judging me for having her as my daughter with her blue/black
hair.
I know her heart is good. I know she loves God. I know she isn't into drugs and
wild living. She is home with me all the time.
If people do look at her, well maybe they are doing what I do to others. I sure
look at young people dressed weird and pass judgement on them and their
parents. But how can I ?
This one child of mine, had something to prove, and she proved it to herself
and she taught me something. Her hair isn't blue now, matter of fact she
washed her hair about 20 times in three days to get it out. It was not what
she really wanted. She was testing people and herself I suspect.
I did not dress plain when I was 18. I went against my family and wore jeans.
I wanted to fit in. At 30 I wore pants. I wanted to fit in.
If in the last 17 years GOd judged me on the outside appearance, I might just
make out better than by having him look on my heart. I am a sinner.
pushes the limits at times. One time she dyed her hair a bluish black.
Expecting me to go crazy over it. But I didn't. I just told her it matched
her eyes and that I had full faith that when she is 35 she will not be doing
such things. It dissapointed her that it mattered not to me.
It mattered to me in one way. My pride. I was ashamed to think that I had
raised a child that would look so, odd and did it speak of some failings within
our family. Did I look less 'Christian" when we walked side by side in the store.
What were people thinking of me ?
Then I thought about my attitude and realized my daughter pretty well had had
my real concerns understood. I wasn't so worried about people judging her, as
I was about people judging me for having her as my daughter with her blue/black
hair.
I know her heart is good. I know she loves God. I know she isn't into drugs and
wild living. She is home with me all the time.
If people do look at her, well maybe they are doing what I do to others. I sure
look at young people dressed weird and pass judgement on them and their
parents. But how can I ?
This one child of mine, had something to prove, and she proved it to herself
and she taught me something. Her hair isn't blue now, matter of fact she
washed her hair about 20 times in three days to get it out. It was not what
she really wanted. She was testing people and herself I suspect.
I did not dress plain when I was 18. I went against my family and wore jeans.
I wanted to fit in. At 30 I wore pants. I wanted to fit in.
If in the last 17 years GOd judged me on the outside appearance, I might just
make out better than by having him look on my heart. I am a sinner.
pat