[PRAYER REQUEST] Oh, man......

#1 · March 8, 2016, 1:17 pm

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Posted by: prezbass <prezbass@...>

Could really use some prayer here, folks:

My son, Ian, has a friend named Steve Hill who is 28 years old. Steve has a twin brother named Shon. A few years ago, Shon got busted for heroin use and ended up in jail. Once he was released, both he and Steve were kicked out of their grandparents house because Shon was still using. It got much worse - Shon ended up stealing some musical equipment from Ian and selling it to pay for drugs- and, needless to say that pretty much tore it for Ian and Shon, but Ian and Steve remained friends.

When Ian got married last November, Steve was in Ian's wedding party. I didn't know it at the time, but apparently Steve and Shon were homeless, living in a tent on some church grounds in Bellevue, Washington. Being that it's winter here, the thought of friends of my son being homeless wasn't something my wife and I could bear easily, but there was no way we could take both of them in with Shon's priors. Luckily, Shon seemed to be able to make some arrangements with family members not far away in Stanwood (about an hour north of us) and when that happened, Deb and I decided to take Steve in and allow him to live here rent-free in our guestroom while he got himself back on his feet. That happened about 7 weeks ago.

I managed to get Steve a job with the City of Kirkland, but that didn't work out. He interviewed for another job and got it, but over the past few weeks he'd gotten very solitary. He'd stay up until all hours of the night playing video games, be late for work or would call in sick and just stay home all day sleeping. This didn't seem to be a good way to get his life back on track, but I didn't say much about it. About 2 weeks ago I noticed that he's been looking different. He lost his glasses, his cell phone and left his ID in a friend's car- all stuff he needs for his job. Again, I suspected something was wrong, but I lacked proof and didn't want to confront him without something to go on. Last week, I began hearing someone leave the house at about 3:30AM and they didn't come back in- that definitely got my attention.

Yesterday, my wife was doing laundry in the morning before work, and she found a syringe in Steve's clothes in the washing machine. Unfortunately, she didn't tell me until late last night around 9PM when I overheard her talking to Ian about this. (Probably needless to say, that did not go well with me, and there was a huge argument between my wife and I.)

I immediately called Steve and confronted him with this. I told him that this was not acceptable, and given the circumstances he was going to have to leave by the end of the week. I definitely freaked him out, and he got weepy and contrite on the phone and said, "I'm not even going to make excuses. I will talk to you later about this" and hung up. And, that was the last I heard from him. He had work today, but he never came home last night. He's not returning phone calls now.

I just got off the phone with Ian, and he's really upset at Steve. (Not at me.) He feels like he let us down - which is ridiculous - and he's going to reach out to Steve and Steve's friends and they are planning some kind of intervention- which probably needs to happen.

While I'm more than happy to facilitate the intervention, there's no way Steve can continue to live here. I know all too well that he will lie and tell us what we want to hear in order to stay (remember that I am a former addict), but my mind is made up. Deb supports this as best she can, and she knows as well as I do what this means. That said, I'm having a difficult time here dealing with what I must do- I know it's for the best, but I worry about everyone concerned. To add to that, not hearing anything from Steve is causing us all a lot of extra stress.

Please be in prayer for Steve, Ian, Ian's wife, Nanette and my wife. This is not going to be fun however it turns out.

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Posted by: prezbass <prezbass@...>

Could really use some prayer here, folks:

My son, Ian, has a friend named Steve Hill who is 28 years old. Steve has a twin brother named Shon. A few years ago, Shon got busted for heroin use and ended up in jail. Once he was released, both he and Steve were kicked out of their grandparents house because Shon was still using. It got much worse - Shon ended up stealing some musical equipment from Ian and selling it to pay for drugs- and, needless to say that pretty much tore it for Ian and Shon, but Ian and Steve remained friends.

When Ian got married last November, Steve was in Ian's wedding party. I didn't know it at the time, but apparently Steve and Shon were homeless, living in a tent on some church grounds in Bellevue, Washington. Being that it's winter here, the thought of friends of my son being homeless wasn't something my wife and I could bear easily, but there was no way we could take both of them in with Shon's priors. Luckily, Shon seemed to be able to make some arrangements with family members not far away in Stanwood (about an hour north of us) and when that happened, Deb and I decided to take Steve in and allow him to live here rent-free in our guestroom while he got himself back on his feet. That happened about 7 weeks ago.

I managed to get Steve a job with the City of Kirkland, but that didn't work out. He interviewed for another job and got it, but over the past few weeks he'd gotten very solitary. He'd stay up until all hours of the night playing video games, be late for work or would call in sick and just stay home all day sleeping. This didn't seem to be a good way to get his life back on track, but I didn't say much about it. About 2 weeks ago I noticed that he's been looking different. He lost his glasses, his cell phone and left his ID in a friend's car- all stuff he needs for his job. Again, I suspected something was wrong, but I lacked proof and didn't want to confront him without something to go on. Last week, I began hearing someone leave the house at about 3:30AM and they didn't come back in- that definitely got my attention.

Yesterday, my wife was doing laundry in the morning before work, and she found a syringe in Steve's clothes in the washing machine. Unfortunately, she didn't tell me until late last night around 9PM when I overheard her talking to Ian about this. (Probably needless to say, that did not go well with me, and there was a huge argument between my wife and I.)

I immediately called Steve and confronted him with this. I told him that this was not acceptable, and given the circumstances he was going to have to leave by the end of the week. I definitely freaked him out, and he got weepy and contrite on the phone and said, "I'm not even going to make excuses. I will talk to you later about this" and hung up. And, that was the last I heard from him. He had work today, but he never came home last night. He's not returning phone calls now.

I just got off the phone with Ian, and he's really upset at Steve. (Not at me.) He feels like he let us down - which is ridiculous - and he's going to reach out to Steve and Steve's friends and they are planning some kind of intervention- which probably needs to happen.

While I'm more than happy to facilitate the intervention, there's no way Steve can continue to live here. I know all too well that he will lie and tell us what we want to hear in order to stay (remember that I am a former addict), but my mind is made up. Deb supports this as best she can, and she knows as well as I do what this means. That said, I'm having a difficult time here dealing with what I must do- I know it's for the best, but I worry about everyone concerned. To add to that, not hearing anything from Steve is causing us all a lot of extra stress.

Please be in prayer for Steve, Ian, Ian's wife, Nanette and my wife. This is not going to be fun however it turns out.

-Marc Miller
prezbass@gmail.com
http://www.eadgpoet.com

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