Re: Need some Understanding
Posted by: mrsmcole <mrsmcole@...>
We had a similar situation some years ago. After seeking wise counsel my
husband made contact with the pastor of the church where the folks were
going. It sure did work out great. The couple got financial counseling and
the church helped with the finances. We have been taught that helping
without training to get rid of the problem is just a temp bandaid. It really
does sound like they need help but help that cures the root problem. I hope
this teaching helps you all as much as it has helped us.
Love, Sharon
>
> I need some help in understanding a situation with some fellow believers.
> Since we have folks on this list from different perspectives I thought I'd
> ask about this issue here.
>
> My husband and I have some friends that are believers. The husband works
at
> labor type jobs. He's very reliable to his employer and takes additional
> side jobs to bring in extra income. Recently his employer has had a slow
> down in work jobs so this man has only been working a couple of days a
week.
> He has tried to take on some side jobs and is more than willing to work.
> Work has been scarce. We knew their financial situation was getting very
> tight and since this scenario has been going on for two months we knew
they
> might be getting behind in bills. However, the wife continued to garage
> sale, shop, auction, etc. So we figured they must be o.k.
>
> We were over there a couple of days ago and the husband was talking with
my
> husband. Told us they had received a disconnect notice for their
> electricity and they were getting behind on house payments. If things
were
> this serious, why was she still spending? I was confused. My husband
told
> me that the wife felt it was the husbands responsibility to provide for
the
> needs of the family. The money she makes is for non-essentials, garage
> saling, buying books, etc...for herself, the house, gas for running
around,
> etc. I'm not trying to be judgemental. It's just hard for me to see her
> husband in such distress by no fault of his own and the wife not helping
> financially. The husband said he was going to have to ask his wife to
help.
> He's started selling things just to try and pay the bills. I'm trying to
> understand.
>
> I'm a bit dumbfounded and I need to hear from others of you that believe
> this way. My husband and I have always shared whatever income that has
come
> into our household. Typically he does pay for everything but we have
never
> looked at it that way. We often help others financially when in need but
I
> can't bring myself to help this man when his wife isn't helping. I'd
> appreciate your opinions. Feel free to email me off list if you prefer.
I
> don't want to create some heated debate. I just don't have anyone else
to
> ask?......Deanna