Fwd: FW: LIVE IT: Family Life -- "You can have a kinder, gentler home "

#1 · August 18, 2000, 6:39 pm

Quote from Forum Archives on August 18, 2000, 6:39 pm
Posted by: masinick <masinick@...>

Useful advice...

I plan to heed it in my home.

Brother Brian

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> From: "Sowing Seeds Ministry" <sowseeds@nesbeonline.com>
> To: <sowseeds@nesbeonline.com>
> Subject: FW: LIVE IT: Family Life -- "You can have a kinder, gentler home "
> Date: Fri, 18 Aug 2000 12:09:50 -0700
>
> A little something for the weekend. God bless. Larry
>
>
> L I V E I T
> Today's best advice from Christian books.
> liveit.crosswalk.com/
>
> YOU CAN HAVE A KINDER, GENTLER HOME
>
> We have lost the meaning of family by escaping into activity. Our
> need for the many outside activities has become pathological -
> not laudable. Overstimulation in the home breaks down
> communication and unity. Families don't seem to want to spend
> time together - or know how.
>
> Healthy families put some controls on the activity level of the
> children and adults alike, and they strive for a home atmosphere
> that is calming, restful, and conducive to communication.
>
> In the home:
>
> * Noise means stress. Parents have a responsibility to monitor
> the noise level in the home. Families have different noise
> level tolerance. Some live comfortably with stereo, radio,
> and TV playing at high volume, while others consider any of
> the three jarring. However, there is a correlation with high
> noise and high stress levels.
>
> * What is excessive noise? When you have to speak more loudly
> than normal in routine conversation, when the sound of
> children's play, TV, or stereo grates on anyone in the
> family; or if parents are constantly asking the children to
> lower the volume because they can't concentrate or talk, the
> volume is excessive - in spite of the kids' protests.
>
> * Make a rule. If the sound of the video, TV, or stereo is too
> loud and you repeatedly ask that volume be lowered - make a
> rule. We'll ask you to turn it down once. The second time
> we'll ask you to turn off. Then act accordingly. Enforce the
> stated consequence, then detach yourself.
>
> * Lower your voice. The voice level in the family increases
> proportionately to the background level of music, telephone,
> and TV. When parents speak more softly, children lower their
> noise level as well.
>
> Outside the home:
>
> * How do you know if you're overscheduled?
>
> * Is it difficult - or impossible - to arrange a
> get-together with relatives or friends for several weeks
> ahead?
>
> * Is Hurry up the most oft-repeated phrase?
>
> * Are you trying to accomplish two or more things
> simultaneously: cooking while on the phone, correcting
> papers at the soccer match, or working on the computer
> while helping a child with homework?
>
> * Is there an environment of pressure, short tempers,
> fatigue, and arguments?
>
> * Set limits. Some families allow each child to take part in
> one outside activity requiring practice or projects during a
> given season. If it's a sports league, he doesn't have time
> for Scouts. If it's ballet, she doesn't have time for
> gymnastics. Parents, too, must choose between outside
> activities: clubs, hobbies, aerobics class, bowling class,
> and even church activities.
>
> A beginning:
>
> * Treat each other with courtesy at all times. Let it become a
> habit. Instead of Get the car keys, say Will you get the car
> keys for me, please? Thanks! Courtesy takes time but it's a
> family investment because it pays off in a more harmonious
> atmosphere.
>
> * Learn to say I'm sorry. Apologies show regret over a behavior
> or misdeed. Saying to teens, I'm sorry I forgot to give you
> your phone message, enhances rather than diminishes
> children's respect for a parent. It tells them that their
> parents are human with human failures and feelings. Teach
> your child to admit failures with sincerity.
>
> * Say hello and goodbye. Families who greet each other when
> coming and going connect and show respect for each other. It
> makes each person feel a part of the family unit and cuts
> down on miscommunication about comings and goings.
>
> * Courtesy includes:
>
> * Picking up after yourself.
>
> * Asking before borrowing.
>
> * Helping when another person is in need.
>
> * Replacing when using the last tissue, toilet paper, ice
> cube, gas, etc.
>
> * Not eavesdropping on phone calls.
>
> * Not hogging the TV remote control.
>
> * Not prying into other's mail, or going into their rooms
> without permission.
>
> -----------
> Dolores Curran lectures and writes widely on parent
> and family life. The author of 14 books, including
> Traits of a Healthy Family, her articles have
> appeared in Reader's Digest, McCall's, Redbook, and
> Parents Magazine. The mother of three young adults,
> Dolores lives with her husband, Jim, in Littleton,
> Colo.
>
> From Tired of Arguing with Your Kids? by Dolores
> Curran. Copyright (c) 1999 by SORIN BOOKS, an imprint
> of Ave Marie Press, Notre Dame, Ind., 1-800-282-1865
> ext. 3. Used by permission.
>
>
> -----------
> To order this book now, click here:
> www.worthybooks.com/default.cfm?Act=bookinfo&ISBN=1893732061
>
> Visit the Live It home page:
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Posted by: masinick <masinick@...>

Useful advice...

I plan to heed it in my home.

Brother Brian

--- Sowing Seeds Ministry <sowseeds@nesbeonline.com> wrote:
> From: "Sowing Seeds Ministry" <sowseeds@nesbeonline.com>
> To: <sowseeds@nesbeonline.com>
> Subject: FW: LIVE IT: Family Life -- "You can have a kinder, gentler home "
> Date: Fri, 18 Aug 2000 12:09:50 -0700
>
> A little something for the weekend. God bless. Larry
>
>
> L I V E I T
> Today's best advice from Christian books.
> liveit.crosswalk.com/
>
> YOU CAN HAVE A KINDER, GENTLER HOME
>
> We have lost the meaning of family by escaping into activity. Our
> need for the many outside activities has become pathological -
> not laudable. Overstimulation in the home breaks down
> communication and unity. Families don't seem to want to spend
> time together - or know how.
>
> Healthy families put some controls on the activity level of the
> children and adults alike, and they strive for a home atmosphere
> that is calming, restful, and conducive to communication.
>
> In the home:
>
> * Noise means stress. Parents have a responsibility to monitor
> the noise level in the home. Families have different noise
> level tolerance. Some live comfortably with stereo, radio,
> and TV playing at high volume, while others consider any of
> the three jarring. However, there is a correlation with high
> noise and high stress levels.
>
> * What is excessive noise? When you have to speak more loudly
> than normal in routine conversation, when the sound of
> children's play, TV, or stereo grates on anyone in the
> family; or if parents are constantly asking the children to
> lower the volume because they can't concentrate or talk, the
> volume is excessive - in spite of the kids' protests.
>
> * Make a rule. If the sound of the video, TV, or stereo is too
> loud and you repeatedly ask that volume be lowered - make a
> rule. We'll ask you to turn it down once. The second time
> we'll ask you to turn off. Then act accordingly. Enforce the
> stated consequence, then detach yourself.
>
> * Lower your voice. The voice level in the family increases
> proportionately to the background level of music, telephone,
> and TV. When parents speak more softly, children lower their
> noise level as well.
>
> Outside the home:
>
> * How do you know if you're overscheduled?
>
> * Is it difficult - or impossible - to arrange a
> get-together with relatives or friends for several weeks
> ahead?
>
> * Is Hurry up the most oft-repeated phrase?
>
> * Are you trying to accomplish two or more things
> simultaneously: cooking while on the phone, correcting
> papers at the soccer match, or working on the computer
> while helping a child with homework?
>
> * Is there an environment of pressure, short tempers,
> fatigue, and arguments?
>
> * Set limits. Some families allow each child to take part in
> one outside activity requiring practice or projects during a
> given season. If it's a sports league, he doesn't have time
> for Scouts. If it's ballet, she doesn't have time for
> gymnastics. Parents, too, must choose between outside
> activities: clubs, hobbies, aerobics class, bowling class,
> and even church activities.
>
> A beginning:
>
> * Treat each other with courtesy at all times. Let it become a
> habit. Instead of Get the car keys, say Will you get the car
> keys for me, please? Thanks! Courtesy takes time but it's a
> family investment because it pays off in a more harmonious
> atmosphere.
>
> * Learn to say I'm sorry. Apologies show regret over a behavior
> or misdeed. Saying to teens, I'm sorry I forgot to give you
> your phone message, enhances rather than diminishes
> children's respect for a parent. It tells them that their
> parents are human with human failures and feelings. Teach
> your child to admit failures with sincerity.
>
> * Say hello and goodbye. Families who greet each other when
> coming and going connect and show respect for each other. It
> makes each person feel a part of the family unit and cuts
> down on miscommunication about comings and goings.
>
> * Courtesy includes:
>
> * Picking up after yourself.
>
> * Asking before borrowing.
>
> * Helping when another person is in need.
>
> * Replacing when using the last tissue, toilet paper, ice
> cube, gas, etc.
>
> * Not eavesdropping on phone calls.
>
> * Not hogging the TV remote control.
>
> * Not prying into other's mail, or going into their rooms
> without permission.
>
> -----------
> Dolores Curran lectures and writes widely on parent
> and family life. The author of 14 books, including
> Traits of a Healthy Family, her articles have
> appeared in Reader's Digest, McCall's, Redbook, and
> Parents Magazine. The mother of three young adults,
> Dolores lives with her husband, Jim, in Littleton,
> Colo.
>
> From Tired of Arguing with Your Kids? by Dolores
> Curran. Copyright (c) 1999 by SORIN BOOKS, an imprint
> of Ave Marie Press, Notre Dame, Ind., 1-800-282-1865
> ext. 3. Used by permission.
>
>
> -----------
> To order this book now, click here:
> http://www.worthybooks.com/default.cfm?Act=bookinfo&ISBN=1893732061
>
> Visit the Live It home page:
> liveit.crosswalk.com
> For more columns to help you live a better life:
> liveit.crosswalk.com/archives
> Visit the Crosswalk.com home page:
> http://www.crosswalk.com
>
>
> -----------
> For Copyright Terms go to http://www.crosswalk.com/info/copyright
>
>
> * * * * * * * * * * * PUBLISHER'S NOTE * * * * * * * * * * *
>
> Can you beat Boomer?
>
> Win Super Bowl XXXV tickets by playing "Beat The Pro"
> with former NFL quarterback Boomer Esiason.
>
> sports.crosswalk.com/football/beatthepro
>
> * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
>
>
> ____________________SUBSCRIPTION INFO_______________________
>
> * You subscribed to Live It as:
> < sowseeds@nesbeonline.com >
> * To unsubscribe from this newsletter, send an email to:
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> Providers. All rights reserved.
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