In all my 13 years as a professional marriage counselor, I've never seen an unbiblical divorce cause less pain and suffering than it would have taken to “fix” the marriage... When a Christian initiates an unbiblical divorce, it's always because he's hardened his heart against God… It’s his self-centeredness and discontentment that causes a man to forsake his wife and family, separate himself from them, seek his own desire, and look for greener pastures elsewhere.