Basic principles in confronting and rebuking in love: 1. Guard your attitude against pride, vindictiveness and impatience, but especially against anger. 2. Resist making quick accusations – you may not have all the facts straight and you may be wrong. 3. Think of all the words you will use. Furthermore choose the right place and time. 4. Use patience and Scripture. 5. Be gentle with people which means to be kind, tender, gracious and calm – not harsh or combative. 6. Balance reproof and encouragement and hope. 7. Pray for wisdom, courage and self-control. Also pray that the Lord would prepare the other person or persons to receive your reproof.