1. First, make a full list of all the things that you have been doing wrong in your marriage. 2. Second, confess your sins in repentance to God. 3. Third, determine to change according to Biblical precepts and examples, and write out specific proposals next to each item on the list. 4. Fourth, go humbly to your husband or wife…and admit your sins against them, telling them that you have sought and found God’s forgiveness and now desire theirs. 5. Fifth, having received forgiveness, seek to rectify any wrongs immediately whenever that is possible.