Discern commonality of spirits. 1. Is this person spiritually regenerated (John 3:1-6)? 2. Take time to observe their values and attitudes (Matt. 7:16). 3. Will they pray with you? Study Scripture? Attend church? 4. Seek counsel of pastor or spiritual leader. Determine correlation of minds. 1. Are there common interests? 2. Do you share “the mind which is in Christ Jesus” (Phil. 2:5)? 3. Is there common desire to “renew the mind” (Rom. 12:2; Eph. 4:23)? Discover concerns of emotions. 1. Don’t start with “feelings;” these should be by-product. 2. Are your affections directed toward the highest well-being of the other person? 3. Do you detect anger, fear, jealousy, pride, etc.? Develop commitments of wills. 1. Are there common objectives and priorities? 2. Discuss short-range and long-range goals. Career choices. 3. Is there a mutual decision to follow God’s leading together? Desire companionship of bodily presence. 1. Desire to share recreation, entertainment, social occasions in each other’s company. 2. Communication; communication; communication! 3. Premarital sexual relationships are contrary to God’s intent (1 Cor. 6:12-20).