Page 58 matters not which one you pick. They are equally wise. On the other hand, there are those decisions that will mean great profit or great loss for many years depending on your choice. And when it comes to the realm of single adults who are eligible for marriage, this is not a case of equal options. The question of when to marry also requires wisdom to make a prudent choice. In short, the Lord has not promised to lead us supernaturally in non-moral decisions. But He has promised to grant us wisdom. So how does one acquire wisdom in making a non-moral decision? One way is simply to ask the Lord for it. This does not mean that He’s going to give you some kind of supernatural revelation, sign, or impression. Wisdom involves discernment; it involves sound judgment. God gives us wisdom most typically through the experience of life (often by our own mistakes or the mistakes of others). When we are young, we are wise to gain wisdom from those who are older than us (Prov. 13:20). We are wise to learn from those who have more experience in life. Proverbs is a book that is filled with the wisdom of King Solomon, who was the wisest man on the earth before Christ entered human history. Solomon’s wisdom is recorded for all of us to glean from. There is also wisdom in the Body of Christ. The Body includes those servants of God who have gone before us (through their writings and their testimony). It also includes those living saints with
Some are childishly anxious to know their friend's opinion of them, and if it contain the smallest element of dissent or censure, they regard him as an enemy forthwith. Surely we are not popes, and do not wish our hearers to regard us as infallible! We have known men become quite enraged at a perfectly fair and reasonable remark, and regard an honest friend as an opponent who delighted to find fault; this misrepresentation on the one side has soon produced heat on the other, and strife ensued. How much better is gentle forbearance! You must be able to bear criticism, or you are not fit to be at the head of a congregation; and you must let the critic go without reckoning him among your deadly foes, or you will prove yourself a mere weakling.
C.H. Spurgeon