Love is NOT:
1. Something you “fall into” – a black hole.
2. Infatuation. Emotional loss of control. “Flipped out…” “Couldn't help myself.” Romanticism and sentimentalism. “Puppy love.” Boy-crazy; girl-crazy.
3. Evaluating another by external criteria. “She's a
10.”
4. Selfish. Interested in “getting” to satisfy my needs.
5. Taking advantage of another (age, height, weight, looks, intellect, emotional maturity, spiritual maturity, social standings, social skills, psychological understanding, place of authority, financial superiority, etc.).
6. Improper need fulfillment. Need for love, acceptance, relating, bonding, belonging, to be valued, affirmed, excitement, identity, etc.
7. Lust. Hormones. Lasciviousness, sensuality. “Let's get physical.”
8. Sex. “Making love.”
9. Idolatry. “......is my life.” Totally preoccupied in attention and time.