But what about love and loyalty when no one else seems to be hurt, such as premarital sexual relationships? Such an argument does not apprehend biblical love. Love is not simply the absence of obvious injury to anyone. For example, critical thoughts don’t victimize, but they are unloving and wrong. Defining love in terms of whether people get hurt misses the heart of biblical teaching. We may not automatically decide what form love takes. God tells us how to love. When we love on our terms rather than His, we are in sin. Even if our sin does not seem to hurt another human being, it is still sin. If sin were reduced to hurting others, then we could become morally perfect by isolating ourselves from all people. Sin, however, is not primarily a human-against-human action. It is human-against-God. God defines love as obedience to Him.
Edward Welch

Bible – English_World – Philippians Chapter 2:1-30.

Index: World English Bible

 

Philippians 2

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2:1 If there is therefore any exhortation in Christ, if any consolation of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any tender mercies and compassion,

2:2 make my joy full, by being like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind;

2:3 doing nothing through rivalry or through conceit, but in humility, each counting others better than himself;

2:4 each of you not just looking to his own things, but each of you also to the things of others.

2:5 Have this in your mind, which was also in Christ Jesus,

2:6 who, existing in the form of God, didn’t consider it robbery to be equal with God,

2:7 but emptied himself, taking the form of a servant, being made in the likeness of men.

2:8 And being found in human form, he humbled himself, becoming obedient to death, yes, the death of the cross.

2:9 Therefore God also highly exalted him, and gave to him the name which is above every name;

2:10 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of those in heaven, those on earth, and those under the earth,

2:11 and that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.

2:12 So then, my beloved, even as you have always obeyed, not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.

2:13 For it is God who works in you both to will and to work, for his good pleasure.

2:14 Do all things without murmurings and disputes,

2:15 that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you are seen as lights in the world,

2:16 holding up the word of life; that I may have something to boast in the day of Christ, that I didn’t run in vain nor labor in vain.

2:17 Yes, and if I am poured out on the sacrifice and service of your faith, I rejoice, and rejoice with you all.

2:18 In the same way, you also rejoice, and rejoice with me.

2:19 But I hope in the Lord Jesus to send Timothy to you soon, that I also may be cheered up when I know how you are doing.

2:20 For I have no one else like-minded, who will truly care about you.

2:21 For they all seek their own, not the things of Jesus Christ.

2:22 But you know the proof of him, that, as a child serves a father, so he served with me in furtherance of the Gospel.

2:23 Therefore I hope to send him at once, as soon as I see how it will go with me.

2:24 But I trust in the Lord that I myself also will come shortly.

2:25 But I counted it necessary to send to you Epaphroditus, my brother, fellow worker, fellow soldier, and your apostle and minister to my need;

2:26 since he longed for you all, and was very troubled, because you had heard that he was sick.

2:27 For indeed he was sick, nearly to death, but God had mercy on him; and not on him only, but on me also, that I might not have sorrow on sorrow.

2:28 I have sent him therefore the more diligently, that, when you see him again, you may rejoice, and that I may be the less sorrowful.

2:29 Receive him therefore in the Lord with all joy, and hold such in honor,

2:30 because for the work of Christ he came near to death, risking his life to supply that which was lacking in your service toward me.