Every counselor knows that the way to put people together is not by taking them apart. Separation heats up desire that it shouldn’t, but cools concern that it ought not. The cooling that often occurs is due to a sense of relief from the previous problems, a false sense of peace that is interpreted (wrongly) as a solution to the problem. Nothing actually has been solved. But because of this temporary relief, it is very difficult to effect reconciliation. Often one (or both) of the parties says “I never had it so good” and is loathe to rock the boat. That peace will leave in time, but for some time can be so great a deterrent to reconciliation that it can destroy the prospects altogether. Separation is another means of running from problems instead of solving them God’s way. The first thing a Christian counselor must do, when dealing with separated persons, is to bring them back together again (at this point their great reluctance to return will be seen) so that he can help them to work on their problems in a context (marriage) where solution can be reached. Two people, under separate roofs, will find it nearly impossible to solve problems that occur when they are under the same roof. Separation, therefore, only widens gaps and deepens difficulties. Of course, very brief separations (a couple of hours, an overnight at a friend’s house) – where one doesn’t pack his/her bags and has no intention of leaving – may at times (when one is violent, confused, etc.) be desirable. But in such a case the brief separation is to avoid situations that destroy problem-solving and make communication impossible. The design (in contrast to extended separation, no matter what is said or thought to the contrary) is to make it possible to face and solve problems God’s way – not to avoid them.

Jay Adams

Post published:December 20, 2022

Index: Latin Vulgate

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5:1 voca ergo si est qui tibi respondeat et ad aliquem sanctorum convertere

5:2 vere stultum interficit iracundia et parvulum occidit invidia

5:3 ego vidi stultum firma radice et maledixi pulchritudini eius statim

5:4 longe fient filii eius a salute et conterentur in porta et non erit qui eruat

5:5 cuius messem famelicus comedet et ipsum rapiet armatus et ebibent sitientes divitias eius

5:6 nihil in terra sine causa fit et de humo non orietur dolor

5:7 homo ad laborem nascitur et avis ad volatum

5:8 quam ob rem ego deprecabor Dominum et ad Deum ponam eloquium meum

5:9 qui facit magna et inscrutabilia et mirabilia absque numero

5:10 qui dat pluviam super faciem terrae et inrigat aquis universa

5:11 qui ponit humiles in sublimi et maerentes erigit sospitate

5:12 qui dissipat cogitationes malignorum ne possint implere manus eorum quod coeperant

5:13 qui adprehendit sapientes in astutia eorum et consilium pravorum dissipat

5:14 per diem incurrent tenebras et quasi in nocte sic palpabunt in meridie

5:15 porro salvum faciet a gladio oris eorum et de manu violenti pauperem

5:16 et erit egeno spes iniquitas autem contrahet os suum

5:17 beatus homo qui corripitur a Domino increpationem ergo Domini ne reprobes

5:18 quia ipse vulnerat et medetur percutit et manus eius sanabunt

5:19 in sex tribulationibus liberabit te et in septima non tanget te malum

5:20 in fame eruet te de morte et in bello de manu gladii

5:21 a flagello linguae absconderis et non timebis calamitatem cum venerit

5:22 in vastitate et fame ridebis et bestiam terrae non formidabis

5:23 sed cum lapidibus regionum pactum tuum et bestiae terrae pacificae erunt tibi

5:24 et scies quod pacem habeat tabernaculum tuum et visitans speciem tuam non peccabis

5:25 scies quoque quoniam multiplex erit semen tuum et progenies tua quasi herba terrae

5:26 ingredieris in abundantia sepulchrum sicut infertur acervus in tempore suo

5:27 ecce hoc ut investigavimus ita est quod auditum mente pertracta

Index: Latin Vulgate

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